I’ve been trying to get pregnant for 3 years now. I know it doesn’t seem like that long, but trust me, it’s fucking long. Anyone who says it’s not a long time has clearly not gone through this process. And they should shut it.
Never in a million years did I think that I would ever struggle to get pregnant. Ever.
Both my mum and gran got pregnant super young (20 and 23 respectively) and had to have a shotgun wedding. My mum is 21 on that picture on the main page, and the cute little baby is me.
Clearly, I come from a long line of super fertility, so I thought, when I’m ready, there would be no problems! Why would there be?
Actually, once I started dating, my main thought was: “wear a condom, don’t get pregnant”, “wear a condom, don’t get pregnant”, “wear a condom, don’t get pregnant”. I basically didn’t want to end up like mum and gran and having to get married too soon or dropping out of Uni.
When I started Uni, all I could think of was: “finish your studies, don’t get pregnant”, “finish your studies, don’t get pregnant”, “finish your studies, don’t get pregnant”.
At Uni, I met my amazing hubby (you need an amazing partner if you’re going to get through it all, can’t do it alone!).
I finished my degree and teacher training (yes, I’m a teacher and surrounded by kids every day, that helps soooooo much) and my first comment to my mum was “I didn’t get pregnant and I’ve now got a degree!” She was proud as she could never achieve what I did (because of me).
Again, I thought, when I am ready, it’s going to happen on it’s own.
After Uni, my main thought was “don’t get pregnant, get career sorted first”, “don’t get pregnant, get career sorted first”, “don’t get pregnant, get career sorted first”.
I then got married and by the age of 28, I had my career sorted. After 4 years, I got a promotion as Head of Department. We were earning a decent amount, we were going on nice holidays, we were going to buy a 2 bed flat and it was time to start trying for a baby.
Again, I thought it would be a matter of months.
A year later, I was like: WTF? my mum and gran got pregnant straight away, why not me? did I leave it too late?
All this time, I was trying not to and now that I wanted to it was not happening.